Holy shit! I saw this yesterday! I had the same exact thought - Where the HELL was the mother?? If my mom noticed it was too quiet after a second or two, she'd check on us kids!! Then again, I was raised differently and if we EVER did anything like this, we'd be whipped for days!
And that brings resolution how??? Such mentality is played out repeatedly in the ills of society and perpetuated in classrooms and courtrooms across the nation, as it is.
Played out? Nah... I have a 7 year old son who is a high-functioning autistic joy of a boy... But he wasn't always this way. When his doctors were pushing me to put him on medication to make him pay attention and behave, I disagreed and instead put my hand to that butt and took away privileges when he disobeyed me. Now, he is a self sufficient, affectionate, highly intelligent boy who won't even go in his candy stash until he's asked me. Why? Because of firm discipline and love. The two have to go together - you can't beat on your kids and never show them the opposite of "the wratch of MOM" (lol), or it won't work. On the other hand, you also can't coddle your kids and be lax on teaching them right from wrong and expect them to be well-rounded.
You're both missing the point. There is a distinct difference between caring, teachable consequences for a child and violent, aggressive punishment. I, too, am a product of having had a paddle / strap across my ass...but done after discussion of the choices made and consequences tied thereto. Every experience / choice allows for teachable moments. Violent, knee-jerk reaction does nothing to counter and correct poor and/or inappropriate behaviors. How can we expect things to change without teaching the wrong within a choice and laying a path forward?
Holy shit! I saw this yesterday! I had the same exact thought - Where the HELL was the mother?? If my mom noticed it was too quiet after a second or two, she'd check on us kids!! Then again, I was raised differently and if we EVER did anything like this, we'd be whipped for days!
ReplyDeleteHmmm! An ephemeral and rather expected diatribe, to say the least!
ReplyDeletewow - is really all i can say. this is just sad and irresponsible. the kids and parents need a beating. a serious one. i'd enjoy administering them.
ReplyDeleteAnd that brings resolution how??? Such mentality is played out repeatedly in the ills of society and perpetuated in classrooms and courtrooms across the nation, as it is.
ReplyDeleteVIc, who are you commenting on? If it's Jada, I can somewhat agree. I came from an era where a lil whoop ass never hurt.
ReplyDeleteWho is to say that one method of discipline works all times all ways?
Played out? Nah... I have a 7 year old son who is a high-functioning autistic joy of a boy... But he wasn't always this way. When his doctors were pushing me to put him on medication to make him pay attention and behave, I disagreed and instead put my hand to that butt and took away privileges when he disobeyed me. Now, he is a self sufficient, affectionate, highly intelligent boy who won't even go in his candy stash until he's asked me. Why? Because of firm discipline and love. The two have to go together - you can't beat on your kids and never show them the opposite of "the wratch of MOM" (lol), or it won't work. On the other hand, you also can't coddle your kids and be lax on teaching them right from wrong and expect them to be well-rounded.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own...
You're both missing the point. There is a distinct difference between caring, teachable consequences for a child and violent, aggressive punishment. I, too, am a product of having had a paddle / strap across my ass...but done after discussion of the choices made and consequences tied thereto. Every experience / choice allows for teachable moments. Violent, knee-jerk reaction does nothing to counter and correct poor and/or inappropriate behaviors. How can we expect things to change without teaching the wrong within a choice and laying a path forward?
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