A frustrating AND challenging place to be depending upon our perspective at any given moment. In evaluating the validity of our 'sigh', we must openly look at how we play in to how others interact iwth us and how we receive what comes our way.
....Frustrating it can be if we neglect to reflect upon our own wants and expectations we hold for others in their support of us. Are we realistically open to receiving the support, love and giving from others to us....or are we standing in judgment with expectations of what we want from them so that no matter what they give it falls short in our eyes.? If the latter, we will always perceive the 'gifts' given as not enough, not given with 'me' in mind and/or nothing done because the giver was / is selfishly focused on self. This perspective is gleaned when the mirror is 'foggy' and 'I' cannot clearly see my role within the reciprocal relationship.
....Challenging it can be if I focus not only on my own wants / needs without expectation of others, but also look at the needs / wants of others. In this situation, considering those I hold as part of my inner circle and support team , do I look at and reflect upon their needs in comparison and alignment with my own. Am I truly supporting their needs openly and honestly, as well as being open to how they choose / need to support me. Is the playing field level in reciprocity of support, and do I recognize the gifts they are capable of giving. It will never be a level playing field, and I can never expect reciprocity. It is a gift when received.
But if I am not open to giving and receiving without expectations, then I will forever be disappointed. Fodder for thought, growth, and paying forward.....
A frustrating AND challenging place to be depending upon our perspective at any given moment. In evaluating the validity of our 'sigh', we must openly look at how we play in to how others interact iwth us and how we receive what comes our way.
ReplyDelete....Frustrating it can be if we neglect to reflect upon our own wants and expectations we hold for others in their support of us. Are we realistically open to receiving the support, love and giving from others to us....or are we standing in judgment with expectations of what we want from them so that no matter what they give it falls short in our eyes.? If the latter, we will always perceive the 'gifts' given as not enough, not given with 'me' in mind and/or nothing done because the giver was / is selfishly focused on self. This perspective is gleaned when the mirror is 'foggy' and 'I' cannot clearly see my role within the reciprocal relationship.
....Challenging it can be if I focus not only on my own wants / needs without expectation of others, but also look at the needs / wants of others. In this situation, considering those I hold as part of my inner circle and support team , do I look at and reflect upon their needs in comparison and alignment with my own. Am I truly supporting their needs openly and honestly, as well as being open to how they choose / need to support me. Is the playing field level in reciprocity of support, and do I recognize the gifts they are capable of giving. It will never be a level playing field, and I can never expect reciprocity. It is a gift when received.
But if I am not open to giving and receiving without expectations, then I will forever be disappointed. Fodder for thought, growth, and paying forward.....
How soberingly true. Sometimes the best advice we do not wish to hear.
ReplyDeleteWith that said, a powerful journey is open, honest and receptive to hearing that which we live without cognizance.
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